So I was reading my bible and I was reading Mark Chapter 7 Verse 17-23
What comes out of the person defiles…….
The heart is the leader in this!
If you have a kind and good heart then murder, deceit, envy, etc… does not come out.
When you look at your neighbors (friends, family or people you don’t even know) don’t look at them and envy what they have and think of what you don’t have. That is where it all begins. When you want what others have and don’t recognize the good YOU have then your heart is hardening and you become envious. After becoming envious then you start to speak ill of those people because you want what you do not have. You never truly know what your neighbor has. It may not be the perfect white picket fence that you see. They are most likely struggling because well aren’t we all struggling in life somehow or someway? Do not envy them… be happy for them and if you want something so desperately that you envy them or talk about them then work hard and try to obtain it. Do not judge them. But be warned because not everything you dreamed of is actually what you NEED or what you THOUGHT it was. For when you put importance on possessions and things that do not matter your heart closes off and becomes hardened. Nice homes do not matter, cars do not matter, being the CEO is great but in then end a lot of times it doesn’t matter. When you allow envy, adulterous thoughts, arrogance, deceit, malice, theft to enter your life and heart then you heart hardens and you can’t live a good happy and peaceful life. You can gossip about someone when you do or don’t know the truth or make up lies, you can covet your neighbors belongings or their life, you can be greedy and constantly seek more, and all of these things will do NOTHING for you except create a bad life. You won’t be able to enjoy what you have because you are to worried what people around you have. You won’t be able to be happy for others because you allow jealousy to take over. You won’t be able to rest in a peaceful life because you constantly have to have more or be more. You won’t enjoy life when you are constantly talking about others and you are in the middle of word arguments and gossip sessions against people.
Jealously, judgement, envy, greed, etc…tries to harden all of our hearts but the people who follow God and TRULY follow him don’t allow them in or to stay in their hearts.
I have had points in my life where people have talked about me, not knowing the REAL story, not seeing behind the scenes. They don’t see me talking about the incidents or the other person for a reason. I try to take the higher road. When someone is being mean because they are jealous I let it go. They will never see what I am or what I work for and I’m not going to change their minds. When someone is being greedy or judgmental I try and remove myself from them. When a huge gossiping session starts I TRY to pull away….
BUT Does envy try to creep in on me? Does judgement try and creep in on me? Does gossiping try to lure me in? Does revenge try to creep in?
Because we are humans and it’s natural….but we MUST FIGHT against it…
Someone may be jealous of my art or my designs, someone may be jealous of my commitment to a healthier life, someone may be jealous of my marriage, someone may be jealous of my three healthy children, someone might think I have money and don’t have to work, someone else might be jealous of my home….people can always find SOMETHING to be jealous of….BUT you never know….You don’t see the people that burned me in my art and design career or hear me talking SMACK about them! I can say that I STILL love one person who burned me not once, not twice but multiple times. Only if people know the real me they know that at points in my life I have worked 7 out of 7 days a week working incredibly hard for what I wanted and dreamed in. Russell and I WORK very hard ….THE BOTH of us…. on our marriage. He is not a prince and I am not a princess we are both gardeners….we both dig in and get dirty to reap all the benefits. Never judge a book by its cover. You may envy but you may have no clue what is behind the scenes. So we all MUST FIGHT….. are we perfect? NO. Do I have slight mess-ups? YES! I try and recognize them and fix it immediately so my heart is not hardened!
We HAVE to fight our way out of those things that harden our hearts! I can truly say I don’t envy anyone else’s life. I don’t know what their “real” life is like but I know that mine is amazing! I can see all the good in my life because I don’t FOCUS on the bad nor do I look at others in envy. I could pick times of bad and just keep lingering on them but I don’t. I look forward and move on. I don’t envy others or become jealous because they probably worked hard to get it and if I want something bad enough that I start looking at someone else and being upset by what they have …..then I would start working really hard to make that happen in my life because it isn’t just handed to people and then I would PRAY! Why do I want something so bad that I am feeling this way? I would be allowing my heart to harden over something that truly doesn’t matter…that job, that other person, that lifestyle, those materials DO NOT MATTER because when God comes I can tell you that no one is going to care who is CEO, who has a Fendi bag, who lives in a 5,000 square foot house, who was in the cool group…..NONE OF THAT WILL MATTER. What WILL matter is your heart. So let the love shine out and remember that! Each day as you step out your door, look on social media, or hear your coworkers talking at work remember to not let things creep in and harden your heart…..because in the end the only thing that matters is…..Well…..it’s