Y’allllllll…….I mean…..you try and teach your kids things and they go and do stuff like this. I was vacuuming up old food from the car to look up and find this………… It took me 30 mins, conditioner, and a whole lot of love to get all these knots out. Apparently my youngest child thought it would be a fabulous idea to stick the car vacuum up to his head and suck all of his hair up in it. ……..ohhhh the incredible adventure of the PARENTING life. #thethingsyouneverthoughtyouwouldsayordo
Sometimes I get asked how I have it all together with 3 young boys running around my house?!? I can answer that…I DON’T! I think we perceive others to have every little piece of their life together but that’s not the case. Not every piece of someones life is always put together. We are actually a HOT MESS and I LOVE this HOT MESS. My kids go to school with crazy hair some days because I just can’t seem to tame their unruly hair. Some days I am wiping mud or peanut butter & jelly off them before we hop in the car. We are always running into church right at 9:00 on the dot and possibly a few minutes later. They run around shoe-less and in their underwear everywhere including outside. They prefer to pee outside when the bathroom is 4 steps away. They eat like barbarians and forget their books at school at least once a week. They are LOUD…oh so very loud and they NEVER and I mean NEVER SLEEP. They are the energizer bunnies. When they wake us up in the morning it’s as though the FBI has thrown a flash grenade in our bedroom and we are about to be imprisoned. #parenting
With all the food that gets stuck down in my couch, play dough left to melt in my car, writing with markers and crayons everywhere, mud, BB guns, and the fights to brush teeth every day are some of the most treasured things about being their mom. One day I know I will miss it all. I will miss me yelling to stop walking on the wood floors with cleats on or to not bring a clear Tupperware box full of spiders, praying mantis, frogs, and whatever else they caught in my house. I will yearn for the WILD HOT MESS TIMES. I will miss their laughter and smiles…..maybe not so much the fights and punching and kicking but everything else… YES!
Enjoy these moments and EMBRACE THEM WITH OPEN HEARTS. Your children are running wild, healthy, & happy and not in a hospital bed somewhere sick. I spend as much time with them as I can. I try and teach them to do the right things but of course they will fall and make mistakes and I want them to…..how else do you learn in life? The biggest teaching lessons are the moments we fall and learn how to get back up and learn from our mistakes. I try and have them do unto others as they want done to them. I try to teach them respect for everyone around them, including us and themselves. I try and teach right from wrong, kindness, compassion, love, to think of others and to help them when they can. I try and teach them appropriate and inappropriate times for things like yelling and running and when to be respectful. I want them to be proud of who they are, of their parents, of God, and their country. But do you know what the biggest thing you can do for your kids is? To be present! To be there with them and not be on your phone, or chit chatting with your best friend instead of watching their game, or constantly leaving them to go do things that only benefit you, and to simply choose them. NO, you don’t choose them every second of the day or week. I go to yoga, workout, read my devotion, work in the garden, make supper, have girls nights, go on date nights with my husband and he does things away from us as well. We have to make sure our pitcher is full so that we can fill everyone else cup around us. My husband and I would LOVE to do MORE extra stuff but we make the time with them now because in the future we don’t want to be upset knowing we missed some of the best years of our lives not being present. We jump in the trampoline though my old back is starting to say you’re to old for that! We drink hot chocolate and have game nights and snuggle up with popcorn for move nights together. We laugh and play together. We aren’t always the most put together or whatever you want to call it but we are happy and content. We are fulfilled and satisfied because we look nowhere else for that satisfaction. We understand each season is different and you need to savor each season for what it is. I will have time in another season to use the bathroom without somebody sitting right beside me asking me questions and showing me Minecraft, the Avengers, or Fortnite. I will have time to not watch the Ghostbusters movie everyday and to not step on a Lego every night while I’m peeking in on their sweet faces. I will have time to eat a hot meal and to not have mud in my bath at the end of everyday. That season is coming but this season….
THIS SEASON is amazing and wonderful and HARD AS HELL
but oh so worth it and beautiful if you look closely…wipe your glasses off and really look at whats around you. IT’S NOT PERFECT but it is still amazing. Those kids……they love you more than anything else in the world and all they want from you is… time, love, and discipline. All they want is for you to be a good parent. Put away your phones, tv or whatever else and be with them. Love them, try and understand them, comfort them, teach them, and discipline them. AND yes discipline them. They will not get to scream demands at their future boss, throw a fit or talk down to people around them, win an award for every thing they do, or get rewarded for their hard work every time. Life is hard. When they grow up they need to be ready for the real world. Giving them absolutely everything they want is setting them up for failure. They won’t be able to understand no or accept no. They will think they are the problem and either act out and be irrational or they will stop trying…..simply because you didn’t let them fall and because you didn’t teach them right and wrong. It is extremely hard to have everything you want in life so I suggest you don’t give your children absolutely everything, they need to hear the word NO and for that NO to be enforced.
We are a hot mess. I try but my children do not eat healthy everyday of their life and neither do I and I am sure they are exposed to toxins everywhere around my house. Our clothes may be a tad wrinkly. I may have paint in my hair. There may be a tag hanging off someones clothes and my house may be a mess. We are not perfect. These boys are a lot to manage and I do get a lot done. I manage my time well but there is still so much more that has to be done. I just know when to say NO and when its not worth it. Dishes in the sink aren’t worth it…..running a business some things just have to be done but choose whats truly worth it. Be as present as you can and savor this time in your life…..one day you will wake up to peace and quiet.
I can promise you if you love those kids at all……
your gonna miss that flash grenadine going off at 5:00 am!