Life is full of joyful moments but also full of terrible moments. I am sure a large number of you think my life is PERFECT and that I have no problems nor will I. You my friends are sadly mistaken. Life is hard for every person out there. We all have our trials and tribulations. We all walk this same life together….we walk them in different shoes, on different paths but we all are in this thing called life together. We are all just trying to live our life in the way we want it to be lived or TRY to live it in that way. We don’t make the exact same decisions as each other but I can tell you something. We all have cried. We all have laughed. We have all felt heartache, anger, sadness, and happiness. Yes, at some point in your life you have cried or you have laughed. You may have gotten dealt a shittier hand than the person next to you but I can tell you something…… there is most likely someone else out there that has had it worse than you. My trials and tribulations may seem huge or insignificant to each of you. That’s the point. We all have different worries and we all handle them differently but we ALL have those misfortunes and hardships.
Can I tell you the secret to handling those trials and tribulations better?
I believe this from my inner core but I have also heard firsthand the key to it all. Why can some people go through tough situations a little easier…or let me say it seems they go through them easier? They aren’t going through them easier, it is still an ordeal for them but they my friends have something called positive outlook. When you live your life with a positive outlook and always make the best of situations then when shit hits the fan guess what?! You will find a positive light to it all and make it through. Yes, you may have depression, cry, and be angry just like anyone else but you can stop after a while and really find the good that came from it. The good may be small but you can find that good and focus on it. With God’s help and a positive outlook, you can fight through anything. My mom grew up with a troublesome childhood, of course as an adult with three children multiple trials there…am I right?! She ran over her own self (yes I promise this is the truth…. by accident when she thought a spider was on her and she fell out of the truck which was in reverse…needless to say it ran over her entire body), her entire home was flooded, and she just recently had an aortic aneurysm with a dissection (don’t know what that is??? It’s in your heart area and it’s the worst of the worst) I’m pretty sure she has had a tough life but I bet there are people out there that still can beat her. She doesn’t let all of these things define her in a bad way. She looks to the positive and to God to move on.
I have had a few moments in my life that were troubling (for me). You may or may not find them as troubling but they were for me. These were moments for me that had me distressed. I immediately went to God and asked him to figure it out for me EACH TIME. I asked him for help EACH TIME. I didn’t blame him or ask how he could let this happen. I simply asked for him to help me, just please help me. I cried to him and left it all for him to figure it out. It may not have been the way I wanted it to end but I knew God had my back in each situation and he always will and that gives me peace. I could and still can find the good in each situation. I remember the birth of my third child in the hospital I was left alone for days and nights because everyone in my family had a stomach virus, my middle brother had a wreck that week, and we were in the hospital 5 nights with fever and infections both Grey and I. In the hospital I noticed his head was shaped very oddly but I was alone, sick, and my biggest fear was happening…staying alone in the hospital for not just one night but multiple nights in a row (I know random right?! It was just a fear I had…not anymore..been there done that and conquered it) so I just told myself it was all the pressure on his head from labor. When we got home I kept staring at his head and at our two week check up I talked with our pediatrician and surely enough we had a problem. Days and tests went by not really knowing if he was okay or not. When he was throwing up I was panicked the brain was swelling and just I remember thinking what do I do? Brain surgery….head gear…I’m going to have to quit work to stay home and help him…..and for the first bit I freaked out but then I remained calm. I didn’t get mad or question God ever. I remembering saying this is it Rivers, this is one of those moments to test your faith…how do you react? Do you blame God? No. Do I get mad at God? No. This is life. Welcome to it. Kids have issues, Adults have issues and God doesn’t create it. He is there to help you get THROUGH IT. So, I did what I preach. I got down and just cried and begged and said I am giving this all to you. You take it. I can’t handle it. You just give me the strength to get through this. This problem is now all yours. I knew he would take care of it and he did. Turn around a couple weeks later and we had a problem that solved itself over the next couple of months by keeping his head in a certain direction. It is still raised just barely on that one side but I see it as a reminder that I trusted and gave it to God and it worked out. A reminder that I stood strong in my faith and didn’t allow it to be shaken. If it would have turned out a different way I would still stand strong in my faith. God didn’t create that trial to punish me. Life is full of trials and tribulations that God didn’t create. During those times I have to run to him and look on the positive side as much as possible to get through them.
Can I ask you something?
If we didn’t have trials and tribulations here on earth would we need heaven or God? Would you turn to him and ask him for help if you had nothing going on in your life? I don’t believe so. Trials are just a part of this life and we have to learn how to deal with them. They may be an absolute nightmare but with God beside us we can see the positive side of it all.
I’m just going to leave you with this……
Act as Jesus would act. Shine your light and happiness far and bright and don’t let anyone or anything completely blow your candle out. Go out today, this weekend, this next week/month and work on finding joy, peace, happiness, and a positive light continuously. It is hard work at first, I am not going to lie but that positive vibe will pass on to others around you and it will prep you for the times ahead…because my dear friend they are ahead of us all.