I heard this once and it stuck with me….
“Your personality is the result of the 3 to 5 people that you spend the most time with”
OH SNAP…….I hang out with my kids…Just kidding…except that I’m really not kidding. I spend most of my time around my husband and children, my mom, and a couple of my best friends. THAT’S IT for my INNER SQUAD. I have other friends and I love to hang with them as well but when hearing this it really hits home. Who do I spend the most time with? I thought of this statement the other day and it brought me back to questioning are the 3-5 people I hang out with the most….GOOD PEOPLE?? Do they have good hearts? Do they have kind intentions? Are they caring? And I was so happy because I could honestly answer YES to that.
You see I have looked around my circles many a times in the past and realized that those people really weren’t MY PEOPLE. I don’t care how much money you have. I don’t care what you drive or where you live. All I care about is that you are kind, caring, and honest. Life is short I want to not play games about who I am. I am silly, quirky, adventurous, loving, kind, caring, but I am also someone who will tell you the truth so don’t ask if you don’t want to know….I can be really loud…my husband can tell you that I am terrible at Karaoke and I have weird obsession with it…..I am an extrovert but also an introvert and that really confuses people, hell it confuses me! I am very loyal…until you screw me over and then I can cut you off faster than Tarzan swings through the jungle. I am terrified of heights and I have the hardest time playing the “fake” part….you can pretty much read my face…I am not perfect at all BUT I do have the best intentions for those around me. I want everyone to succeed and I want to help them. I care about others and never want them to hurt…I even had someone screw me over a few times in my business but I never talk about it to people and I still love that person…I just separated myself for the better!
Look around….who do you hang out with the most? Do you truly and honestly love the heart and actions of those people? If you don’t then back away…slowly and kindly. You have different friends for different times. Separate yourself and make sure most of your time is spent with those people that have kind and caring hearts. Just because you step away from someone doesn’t mean you still can’t or don’t love them….it just means you are doing what is best for yourself. Surround yourself with good so that you can be better!
This not only applies to us but our family and friends as well. Your child’s personality can take on whoever they are hanging with. It is very important that children are surrounded with good hearted kids. You may want your kid to be the “cool” kid but you need to concentrate on your child being the kind hearted kid and make sure they are hanging with similar children. Look around at your circle, your child’s circle, your husbands circle, whoever, and evaluate it. It doesn’t mean we have to completely stop hanging out with those people it just means there is a time and place and that they don’t need to be our main friends if want to progress and be the best versions of ourselves.